Becoming One by Joyce C. Lock

Becoming One by Joyce C. Lock

When a couple marries, it is sometimes referred to as 'becoming one'. It has been said the problem is deciding which one. Which should it be? I submit to you, neither one.

"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" Amos 3:3. If either wants to be king of the hill, then they walk alone; with a mate, by their side, in name only.

"Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour," Ec. 4:9.

My mate is left handed, utilizing the opposite side of his brain (by comparison to the side most males use) and God gave me analytical abilities. Yet, when God created either of us, He did not make a mistake. There are times when I make wiser business decisions. Though, he is quick to spot a con-artist.

"For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow:

but woe to him that is alone when he falleth;
for he hath not another to help him up," Ec. 4:10.

Our strengths uphold each other.

"Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?" Ec. 4:11.



When we make Jesus our head, Jesus will stand with us.

When both we and our mate make Jesus the head, our stand is even greater.

"And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him;

and a threefold cord is not quickly broken." Ec. 4:9-12.

"Wherefore if thy hand or thy foot offend thee, cut them off, and cast them from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life halt or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet to be cast into everlasting fire. And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire." Mt. 18:8-9.

Did I say to run out and divorce them? No.

Just, don't cheat on God to fall with your mate.



"No servant can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon," Lu. 16:13.

Adam's sin was that he chose his mate above God.
And God named both male and female 'Adam', Ge. 5:2.

Only God knows how to defeat Satan every time. Therefore, if the Spirit does not guide a couple toward agreement, God is not likely in it. A warm assurance and the comfort of unity comes when both agree on His leading. Only then can the three walk together.

"Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them," Mt. 18:19-20.

When we seek God's guidance together, we obtain divine protection.

Another way of looking at it is this.

Father
(head)
/
/
/
Son Holy Spirit

Jesus
(head)
/
/
/

Husband Wife

"I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one;
and that the world may know that thou hast sent me,
and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me."

Jn. 17:23

Only when we become one with God can we become one with each other;
one in heart, soul, purpose, body, mind, and strength.




by Joyce C. Lock
http://our.homewithgod.com/heavenlyinspirations/
This writing may be used in its entirety, with credits in tact,
for non-profit ministering purposes.
About the Author
Joyce C. Lock is a published author, poet, and columnist. In addition, she founded and maintains the e-mail ministries "Heavenly Inspirations" http://groups.yahoo.com/group/HeavenlyInspirations/ and "Share a Smile" http://groups.yahoo.com/group/smilesharing/. Joyce's writings encourage us in our relationship with God and each other.

Link Romantic Feelings To The Sight Of Your Face by Marguerite Bonneville

Link Romantic Feelings To The Sight Of Your Face by Marguerite Bonneville

Anchoring is an NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) term used to describe the minds tendency to associate two unrelated events or experiences, especially when a strong emotion is present.

For example, if your mother fed you chicken soup when you were ill as a child, you will always associate chicken soup to being loved and cared for.

On the down side, if you once contracted food poisoning from eating tainted pickles, just the smell of pickles will be enough to bring on a feeling of nausea many years after the event.

How does anchoring work in relationships?

If you come home from work elated by a promotion and see your lovers face, you will link that feeling of elation to the sight of his or her face. By the same token, if you hate your job and constantly talk about those feelings over dinner with your spouse, you'll unconsciously begin to associate the bad feelings with him or her.

In that case, you must make a conscious effort to share more good times with them so you will more readily associate positive feelings to the sight of their face.

Sharing good times creates positive anchors or associations. It helps you to weather the less positive times that every couple experiences at some stage in their relationship.

Breaking up is often the result of linking too many negative anchors to the sight of your partners face, with no knowledge of how to counteract them by deliberately creating positive ones.

Heres a common example. A young doctor whose wife works to help him through medical school may decide to divorce her after he graduates. This is because he associates the sight of her face to the hard times they experienced during those years. Of course this is all unconsciousall he knows is that he feels bad whenever he looks at her. He mistakenly takes this as a sign that the relationship isnt working.

Now that you know how anchoring works, use it intentionally to improve your relationship.

1. Plan positive events together and make sure you dont let any negativity intrude on the event. Save arguments or disagreements for a later time.

2. During the height of an intensely positive moment you are sharing:
a. touch your loved one lightly on the knee or arm
b. squeeze the persons hand or
c. put your arms around him or her.
The next time you repeat the same gesture with this person in some other context, it will reawaken some of those original emotions in them.

In a similar way, if you touch someone in a specific way when they are feeling sad, for example, you squeeze their shoulder or put an arm around them at a funeral, touching them later in the same way will reawaken those feelings of sadness. So be careful about what sorts of emotions you are associating to your touch, words or face.

How does this apply to gifts?

A gift is by its nature an anchor. Every time the recipient looks at the gift, they will remember the occasion when they received it, especially if they experienced strong emotions at the time.

So you can help guarantee that your gift will be a strong ongoing anchor if you make sure that you create a truly memorable experiencesuch as an extremely romantic evening - when you present the gift.

A woman will always remember following a trail of rose petals in her lovers apartment to find the necklace he purchased for her birthday.

A man will always remember being presented with his own personal star by a lover dressed only in a star-patterned bra and g-string.

Its also important to consider the opposite effect.

Never give a gift by way of apology. You dont want to create negative anchors by giving gifts after an argument.

If you give your wife a diamond ring to apologize for the fact that she caught you cheating with your secretary, the ring will always remind her of your infidelity.

If you give your husband a new watch to apologize for crashing his BMW, hell remember your transgression every time he checks the time.

Even if those memories don't make it to conscious awareness, they're lurking just under the surface. It makes better sense to allow them to fade away, instead of attaching them to physical objects like gifts.

Keep things simple. A genuine apology is all thats required after an argument. Save gifts for positive occasions.
About the Author
Marguerite Bonneville
Marguerite Bonneville is a Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) whose passion is publishing information online. She is a contributing writer at http://www.romantic-gift-ideas-online.com, a resource site dedicated to helping visitors find the perfect romantic gift.

How to Choose the Right Divorce Lawyer by Nashville

How to Choose the Right Divorce Lawyer by Nashville

Are you unhappy with your relationship? Are you thinking about divorce? Well then, choosing the right lawyer can be one of the most important decisions you make when considering a divorce. According to the article How to Select a Divorce Lawyer by Scott Morgan which was posted at www.legalclips.com, selecting a divorce lawyer to handle your family law case is a very important decision. There are a few important criteria to help in finding the right divorce lawyer including focus and experience, past client testimonials, accessibility, fees and comfortability. And here are a few tips on how to get the best divorce lawyer around for your case.

First, set an appointment and prepare your questions beforehand. Ask about everything that is related to your case. Through this, youll be able to assess if you have come to the right person and realize if he can handle the case for you. Also, ask about whether youll be copied in on all documents. I believe that its very important for a lawyer to return phone calls within a day and to copy a client in on all correspondence including legal letters and documentations. It is your right to be kept fully updated on all the developments of your case.

More so, never think twice to inquire whether you will be charged for phone calls and for the initial consultation. Always keep in mind that a lawyer cannot be able to truthfully determine a legal fee without some preliminary research and investigation. Of course, fees will vary based on the complexity of the case, the time commitment involved, the skill and experience of the lawyer, etc. The payment of the fees, whether partial or full, is being done at the beginning of the case in some cases. In other cases, the lawyer might offer a payment plan.

Indeed, resolving such complicated issue is being made more difficult because of the emotional factors involved and the fact that during the divorce, neither of the parents is really happy. With this, regular communication between you and your attorney is very important. However, bear in mind that your lawyer's job is to give you correct information to help you make difficult decisions, not to tell you what you want to hear. The divorce lawyer will only help you to at least lessen the burden that you experience by winning your divorce case.

After all, the stress that these battles bring to parents can be truly remarkable. Perhaps, no other phase of life such as this one presents so much psychological pain yet so much opportunity for growth for the persons involved.

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