Wednesday, June 08, 2005

Marriage, you are the weakest evolutionary link, Goodbye ! by TrysDan Roberts



You cannot turn on the television or radio these days without having the argument, 'marriage is an old institutionalized sacred union between a man and a woman,' rammed down your throat.

It is widely accepted that as each generation of men and women enters adulthood, values and ideologies change and evolve. Many beliefs for moral reasons, are abandoned. i.e... slavery. Marriage is a very old ritual one should examine to see if it should be abandoned or modified.

Marriage, exactly how old are you?

"The best available evidence suggests that its about 4,350 years old. For thousands of years before that, most anthropologists believe, families consisted of loosely organized groups of as many as 30 people, with several male leaders, multiple women shared by them, and children. As hunter-gatherers settled down into agrarian civilizations, society had a need for more stable arrangements. The first recorded evidence of marriage ceremonies uniting one woman and one man dates from about 2350 B.C., in Mesopotamia. Over the next several hundred years, marriage evolved into a widespread institution embraced by the ancient Hebrews, Greeks, and Romans. But back then, marriage had little to do with love or with religion." (1.)

Marriage, What was the purpose of creating you?

Marriage served a number of biological and social functions:

▪ Women needed to have a place in society and marriage allowed men to obtain women as their own personal property (honor and obey.)

▪ Marriage ensured that a mans children were his true biological heirs. A man could even return a woman if she did not produce for him.

▪ Ancient cultures, such as ancient Greeks and Romans, (2.) men were allowed, and still are in a few present cultures, to have several wives for the purpose of producing many offspring.

▪ Ancient cultures, such as ancient Greeks and Romans, (3.) wives were forced to stay at home taking care of the children and home while the husbands engaged in sexual activities with prostitutes.

Marriage, what role did organized religion play?

Christian doctrine relegated the role of the woman as that of a servant to her husband. Women were forbidden to divorce and men were considered the head and boss of the family. Raping your wife was frowned upon but legal.

Fortunately, modern marriage has evolved to be a much more civilized institution in most cultures. The cultures where religion plays a major role in government, the plight of the married woman is very disturbing.

In recent months, the institution of marriage is being challenged by those seeking same sex marriages. The opponents of gay marriage say the roots of heterosexual marriage are a sacred ritual between a man and a women.

After examining the origins and history of heterosexual marriage, it can be argued that because women in the free societies are no longer considered property, the institution of marriage should be abolished and replaced with a civil union for all.

So let us all shout: Marriage, you are the weakest evolutionary link, Goodbye!

References:

(1.) (2.) (3.) The origins of marriage http://www.theweekmagazine.com/briefing.asp?a_id=567
4/2/2004
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Copyright 2003, 2004TrysDan Roberts www.trysdansbooks.com

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"Divorce Advice: Getting Divorce Advice From the Right Source" by Karl Augustine



Getting the right type of divorce
advice depends on what type of divorce
advice you want and what you want to
use it for. When looking for advice
about divorce, it is smart to clearly
define what you are seeking the advice
for so you can be sure to look in the
right places.

Seems simple enough right?

Yes, but...lots of people who are
deciding about divorce and seeking
divorce advice lump the categories of
divorce advice into one, and that's a
big mistake. You should seek divorce
advice from different types of places
for the different types of advice that
you need. Certainly there's more types
of divorce advice categories, but
here's a partial list:

Divorce advice type 1: Legal advice
for getting a divorce when you are
sure that you want a divorce, no
matter how tough it will be to get
that divorce. When asking for this
type of divorce advice while meeting
with an attorney, you may be asked if
you're certain that you actually do
want a divorceif you do, don't waver,
stick to your decision. It makes sense
to have a good idea of all of the
parts of your life, family and
materials, that could be affected or
sought after. You want to have your
facts, account names, timelines, etc.,
in mind when meeting with the attorney
so that your discussion is maximized.

Divorce advice type 2: Legal advice
for getting a divorce when you are
almost sure that you want a divorce,
but want to make sure that the
financial considerations are in order
or that health of your children won't
suffer in the long run. When asking
for this type of divorce advice, you
may want to consider seeking the
advice of an attorney or financial
planner for the financial
considerations and a counselor
experienced in family matters for the
impact that a divorce might have on
your children. The point is, split the
two concerns up so that you get the
chance to speak to 2 different people
who specialize in each area so that
you will get the appropriate divorce
advice.

Divorce advice type 3: Legal advice
for getting a divorce in a case that
is relatively simple and will be a
clean break, no financial or other
family considerations to take into
account for the divorce. This is
perhaps the easiest type of divorce
advice to get because it infers that
you have already made the decision
from an emotional standpoint and
really don't have any other
considerations of deep concern. When
seeking this type of divorce advice,
you most likely have limited financial
considerations, a prenuptial
agreement, or the situation itself as
amenable to everyone and you just need
someone to do the paperwork.

Divorce advice type 4: Legal and/or
counseling advice regarding whether or
not divorce is right for you from a
psychological, emotional and financial
perspective. When asking for this type
of divorce advice, you may want to
consider seeking the advice of an
attorney or financial planner for the
financial considerations and a
counselor experienced in Clinical
Psychology and "personal-life"
coaching for the impact that a divorce
might have on you. Again, the point
is, split the two concerns up so that
you get a chance to speak to 2
different people who specialize in
each area so that you will get the
appropriate divorce advice.

Divorce advice type 5: Counseling for
emotional support when deciding
whether or not you really want a
divorce or are just unhappy in your
marriage. This type of divorce advice
is crucial to your happiness because
when you're in an emotional state, it
is tough to make lucid and rational
decisions. And, if you're wrestling
with deciding whether or not to get a
divorce (purely from an emotional
perspective), you should do all you
can to make a logical decision because
how you approach this decision and the
affects afterwards can be long lasting
and far reaching. If you're are
struggling with finding divorce
advice, you may want to talk to
friends, counselors, even other family
members.

But, my divorce advice to you is, do
it yourself.

I'm not saying don't talk with
friends, counselors, and possibly
family. What I am suggesting is that
you reach the final decision of
whether to get a divorce on your own,
you have to live with it, no one else.

The answer is inside you, you just
have to get it out in a logical manner.

Whatever type of divorce advice you
need, be sure that you're directing
your energies in the right direction.

If you don't separate the emotional
aspects from the legal aspects of
divorce advice, you might end up
confused and unable to get the most
out of any meeting you may have with
an attorney or marriage counselor. At
the end of the day, you should control
your own destiny and make a smart
decision based on logic, controlled
emotion, and forward thinking.

Karl Augustine, "A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not Top Get
A Divorce"

*Marriage Counselor Recommended
Divorce Advice

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